If you have questions or concerns about any part of the process, please do not hesitate to contact Meg Kempton, Marriage Ministry Mentor.
Do you consider Grace your church home?
Our Premarital Process is intended to support couples who are a part of the Grace family. Connection is one of our Six Essentials. By connecting with others in a mentoring relationship you can experience authentic community that will support you during the premarital stage and on into your marriage. We want Grace to be a place where you are known and loved and where your marriage can thrive. Your regular engagement with your church family is the first step in making that happen.
Do you have a shared commitment to follow Jesus?
We believe your marriage will only flourish when you are both actively pursuing an honest relationship with Jesus. However, we acknowledge that faith journeys take twists and turns and individuals can be at different points along the way. This is something to openly discuss together with your marriage mentors during the Premarital Process.
Are you both willing to meet regularly with a premarital mentor and/or counselor?
Couples who participate in some type of premarital preparation process are 30% more likely to have a successful marriage than couples who do not. The more you, as a couple, put into this process, the more you will get out of it. We believe that meeting with a mentor couple and/or a professional counselor is an invaluable resource and expands your community of support.
If you are remarrying after a divorce, have you had a season of intentional time to heal?
Divorce is painful and it takes time and intentionality to recover. So before you consider remarriage, we ask that at least one year has passed since the time of your finalized divorce and that you have engaged in some type of process or program to facilitate personal healing. We believe in God’s power to redeem, heal, and restore and that your second marriage can be strong.
Are you willing to practice sexual purity during your engagement?
In today’s culture, sex outside of marriage is commonplace; viewed as natural and even necessary. Yet God calls for a different and ultimately healthier choice – reserving sexual intimacy for marriage alone. Your engagement is a crucial time of preparation and clarity and nothing is more distracting than having a sexual relationship before you are married.
We believe that practicing abstinence throughout the Premarital Process and until your wedding date is one of the best decisions you can make for the health of your relationship.